With the expanding awareness of the Karen phenomenon I want to make a few observations about her origins. This will be part one of three. Part two will deal with the men who particularly struggle Karens, who I will call “Bryans”. Part three will give some helpful suggestions of how Karen and Bryan, or perhaps proto-Karens and proto-Bryans, might be able to alter their life courses towards more desirable ends.
For the few of you who are unfamiliar with the meme, a “Karen” is an entitled middle-class to upper-class white woman who has drastically over-estimated her self-importance. Her ability to superficially produce favorable outcomes for herself largely depend on her propensity to complain to legitimate authorities about a personal inconvenience. This legit authority will often then concede to Karen just to get her to stop nagging. She is almost always suburban, usually has short hair, and has less children than God would have intended. She is the woman at the restaurant who wants to speak to the manager and she is the lady at the park breaking quarantine so that she can narc on other people who are doing the same.
If you need to see a Karen in her own element, here she is.
I actually prefer Scott Greer’s interchangeable term “AWFL” which gets closer to the heart of what type of person a Karen is. This acronym stands for Affluent-White-Female-Liberal. Some good archetypes would be Fauxahontas, Gretchen Whitmer, and Alyssa Milano.
The Karen phenomenon is the result of unrestrained feminism. Stated differently, the Karen phenomenon is the result of weak men placating women. A self-entitled woman is formed from the absence of a strong man present in her life who will control her histrionic impulses. This formation of character begins in childhood with her father. He is usually successful in his career, but a weak man in the home. He is a “Yes, dear” husband who allows his more assertive wife to lead the marriage and the home. Daddy took the same approach to his daughter as he did to his wife, which is one of accommodation. If daddy’s little princess wanted something and she was bold enough to complain to him about it, well, he always caved. Lil Karen learned to love this power trick and and it became a major aspect of her personality.
By the time teenage Karen is of age she will choose to date boys like her father who give her what she wants. Karens never date or marry strong men. In fact, next time you meet such a woman in public and she is with her man, then observe how he carries himself. The guy who would pair with a Karen is invariably a “Nice Guy.” That’s partly because high-status men don’t settle for an assertive woman and partly because Karens must be in control, which means she will only pair with a complimenting weak man. Thus the cycle continues and the Karen complex becomes stronger.
This is a good juncture to answer the shrieking detractors composed of female and male feminists who are certainly thinking, “Yeah, but, okay, like, it’s totally fine for a woman to be in charge of a relationship and stuff, just like a man. You should be more open-minded, or something. Cuz some girls like to lead and some guys like to follow. It’s their business, not yours!”
I’m glad they brought this up. The above protestation would make a decent point if Karen-hood led to happiness for either Karen or her Bryan (Yes, I just made that up). As it turns out, neither Karen nor Bryan are really happy with this arrangement, but we’ll discuss Bryan tomorrow.
Karens, as a rule, are unhappy people. They are unhappy because they expend great energy in an attempt to thwart God’s plan for women, in general, and in their own lives, specifically. The same narc nazi females who are calling the cops because their neighbors are not socially distancing while doing their lawn work are the same ladies who have to drink a bottle of wine to fall asleep every night, pop pills to get going for work in the morning, and talk to their therapist weekly in order to process their feelings. Don’t even get me started on their Eat.Pray.Love. spiritual pilgrimages to Marki Gras. Karen is trying to cope with a life that she was never meant to be living.
What this broken soul really wants, deep down, is a strong man to protect her both from the dangers in the external world around her as well as the chaos that lies within her. If she had a man like that, then she could relax. But she doesn’t have a man like that and knows that she never will, so she can’t relax. She’s always on edge and always afraid, which leads to her insane behavior. Peak Crazy for these ladies never even begins until their mid-thirties after they have hit the proverbial Wall. Before this point, proto-Karens might be bossy and assertive, but are rarely high-strung psychopaths. That’s because the the proto-Karens still have hope that they’ll meet a strong man. Post-Wall, Acutalized Karens know that they will never attract anyone of a higher status than Bryan and begin to spiritually spiral.