For as we share abundantly in Christ’s sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too.
2 Corinthians 1:5
During the time of martyrs, the saints understood that the relationship with God was a two-way street. They suffered for His cause and God bestowed His grace to strengthen them. Despite our change of expectations in this relationship becoming a one-way street, it is likely the case that if you feel that you are missing out on God’s comfort, then you are not willing to suffer for Him.